Tuesday, June 2, 2009

embracing SAHM-hood

i already left the work force since sunday… yes, sunday, 31st of may, since my company still had an event that day in megamall and i was expected to be there. but starting yesterday, i am already a full-fledged stay-at-home mom and a full-time homemaker, a noble job because it’s a 24 hour job but without any pay. but still, i took the plunge.

 

i can say that this decision was backed up with a lot of courage and some of you may know that this was long overdue. i wanted to resign even early this year but i could not as we’re not yet ready then and i was not also allowed by my boss. but pregnancy came and i had more reasons to leave my work and concentrate first on my number one duty, which is to take care of my kids (iñigo and the baby inside me). aside from that is my failure until now to find a full-time helper and/or nanny though am not really interested to find one, hehe, still praning to leave over iñigo with just a stranger. and am not a superwoman, i cannot juggle parenting, house chores, and work without feeling dead-tired every night.

 

but i know it’s not a popular decision as the trend nowadays is both the husband and the wife are working. i always had to explain to my boss who happened to be working mom why i wanted to stop working for the meantime. i had to tell her that it would not make me less of a woman if i ask money for a lipstick from a husband. there were also those who raised their brows or sighed in disapproval over my decision as they were afraid that i’ll just be another dependent of jude but i didn’t mind. the husband’s role is to provide anyway and though society now dictates that the wife should also earn money an unemployed wife doesn’t mean she’s the lazy, incompetent, and good-for-nothing wife. damn… why do i have to tell all these??? hahaha.

 

oh, i’ll just rest with the fact that this decision is a mutual decision between me and jude.

 

my father was not also keen on the idea that i just stay at home as i could no longer use what i learned from school. i get his sentiments as he and my mother really made an extra effort to send me to good schools and i even had an mba degree to boot. but as i’ve said, this is only temporary and i hope when the time comes that am ready to work again the corporate world will still take me in. but if not, i would gladly accept my fate and find something worthwhile (and hopefully lucrative too) to do in other fields. my life doesn’t stop with having an 8-5 job.

12 comments:

  1. congrats marie!!!

    as long as it's a mutual decision, you don't have to be affected by what others feel noh. =)

    naku, ang sarap maging SAHM! i doubt if gustuhin mo pang bumalik sa corporate world if nasanay ka na to be with the kids 24/7.

    enjoy being SAHM! and mabuhay ang mga nanay! =)

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  2. oo nga, hinde ko naman tinutukan ng baril si jude para payagan akong mag-resign. hehe. in fact, he's also tired of our arrangement when i was still working kahit part-time lang s'ya. at least now, i can stay at home 24/7 if there's no need to go out.

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  3. anong club... club ng mga dakilang yaya at atsay ng boys natin? hehe.

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  4. hahaha... yup, welcome to our world! :)

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  5. sa umaga lang yun..iba pa sa gabi ;)

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  6. enjoy really being at home w/ Inigo sis! naku in a few months na lang we will be back to square 1...with the sleepless nights expected when our newborns will be here na :)
    i left my corporate job 3 yrs ago, and i havent looked back since...i will never ever regret that decision too. I may not have reached the position i have set for myself at the corp. ladder when i started out, but seeing & being w/ Benedict 24/7 is more than enough reason to enjoy being a full-time SAHM.

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  7. yes, i'm back again to being a sahm. i just hope my boss will never bother me again but i'm sure she won't because she knows that when i give birth iisipin ko na naman mag-resign. grabe, naka-3-4x na yata akong resignation duon.

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  8. huh? may iba ka pang trabaho sa gabi??? *wink*

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  9. oo nga eh, that's one reason and the biggest reason why i already resigned as i know i can't take care of the two kids and still think of work kahit part-time pa yan... si iñigo pa nga lang kapagod na. hehe. though i like din going out of the house 2x a week to report to the office parang break na rin kaso ang gulo ng arrangement namin and it really forced me to just stay home, si jude na lang mag-work.

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  10. wow... you must really be a valuable employee to your boss, huh? :)

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  11. tamad lang yun maghanap ng kapalit ko.

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