four years married and still... paddling?/bo sanchez's fight the relationship drift

i want to share this inspiring article written by one of my favorite authors, bo sanchez, about relationships and on how to take good care of them. it struck a chord on me especially during these days when we have our hands full with work (for jude), housechores (for me), and rearing babies (for both of us) that there’s no time left for ourselves and for each other. admittedly, there were moments when we were only drifting and had never thought to paddle. probably because we thought we’re already doing well as a couple... or because we put the kids on top of our priority list and anything that doesn’t involve them can come later. and it's only when you read articles like this that you are reminded of what else should be on top of our priorities.

 

here's the link: http://bosanchez.ph/fight-the-relationship-drift/

 

last 8^th of october, jude and i celebrated our 4^th wedding anniversary. since i just gave birth and theo was only four-day old then, we were only homebound and just ordered foods and cake for dinner.

 

 

contis' mango bravo cake was what jude brought home for us that night...

promise, adik na ako sa kanya!!!

 

 

it was a simple and yet warm celebration, good enough to cap off the four years that went by and to welcome another year in our married life, with full anticipation for more joys and probably woes… and fights, which i hope aren’t big enough for us to consider annulment. harharhar.

 

for those who’ve been reading our humble blog since i became active in multiply, the titles for my entries about the last two wedding anniversaries we had were always ending in “… marital bliss”. we’re still happily married until now but i won’t deny the fact that, as all married couples do, we also fight or should i say, have misunderstandings. and during those moments that we’re in a tussle, life was not blissful at all! but we take these fights like a bitter medicine which we need to take once in a while as prior and even during these moments, the maladies that have stricken our marriage surfaced and were diagnosed. because if not for these, we won’t be paddling now to the direction where we want to bring our marriage and that is a lifetime with each other.

 

okay... cheesy! :D